Mammu – What my daughter taught me in three years of our togetherness?

Ahhh…so here I am a quench mom, who is warmheartedly call out as ‘Mammu’ by her baby. Journey had not been bed of roses for us, it started off with ‘Ma’ and today has reached to ‘Mammu’. I am at peace as she has accepted me and I have a space of my own in her life. I still remember people being judgemental about her, being like her father not me, it never actually bothered me much but somewhere I knew that she might not look like me but possess the best of her parents and has her own identity as I have.

Most importantly her understanding for being respectful towards others, whoever it may be; thankful to people who are there to support her; clarity between wrong & right; need of being religious; being clean. And I am glad that she has adapted all the characteristics nicely and is in a process to transform as an independent individual more than me. I admit that all this while I had been strict when my child was trying to understand the need of things, which she was being told / asked to do.

Things which I learnt from her are:

 1)      Control your anger

       2)      First do it then  expect others to do it

       3)      To be calm in pain

       4)      Be persistent in whatever you do

       5)      Understanding the importance of both the parents in life

       6)      Being completely independent

       7)      Have no expectation

       8)      Being conscious, careful, supportive

I am glad that every day I have something to learn from her.

Thank you baby for being considerate and understanding.

Mammu!

Feelings

Tender Touch

Feeling which is inevitable, yet not sink in….my baby who puts me off to sleep by singing the lullaby. On being hurt, her innocence & concern make us forget our pain.

Her being Patient, considerate & combatant made us more understanding & mature towards life….

Proud Parents!!!     

Dedicated to my lovely cousins.....

Cousins…first friend

C-ourteous; O-ptimist; U-niformity; S-uccess; I-rresistible; N-aughty;  

Courteous to be vocal & protective, being optimist about each other. Uniformity is the key for making relationships a success. Friendship is something which is irresistible and gives space to get mischievous in life. This is what cousins means to me….someone with whom I can share my secrets; just be myself; get naughty with them; cannot think of life without them.

We use to wait for summer vacations to visit our maternal grandparents, where we all cousins use to meet up. Lot to catch up on…gossip doing the rounds…wait for all elders to sleep and be awake till midnight; being protective for each other….All have grown up; married and have become parents, changed as a person but still feel the same for each other, always ready to manage time for each other from our busy schedules.

Frantically missing u all….much loved!!!!

Respect To Be Respected

Respect is a word that is universally required socially or economically. It is not only limited to human beings but also for the nation which comprises of variant religions, mythologies, social mechanism.

Always believe to treat people the way you want to be treated; speak the way you wish to be answered. Respect is for those who deserve it and not for those who demand it. Irrespective of age; positions or levels, one need to be treated courteously. To make someone learn or understand the mistake made, is need to be explained tranquilly not to sound exasperated. Annoying gesture will leave person with a scare and disturbed mind, and sluggishly will stop feeling respect for you.

Relationships are two way inverse relations and worth to be respected by both the parties involved and also has a thin line which should not be crossed ever with the leverage of being rightful. One should never be silent just because another one is older or elder, as it will be losing one’s self esteem.

Knowledge being the most important concept of life, and could earn power to you but requires to be sharpen from time to time. Similarly personality will earn you respect and needs to be dignified over the period of time. It will help to respect others character; profession; commodities; feelings – as it might not mean or relate to you anything but means everything to them.

Care for Respect!

An expert based on a girl’s journey post her marriage to earn respect from her in-laws, husband and the extended family of her husband. This scenario is true in both arranged / love marriage and most of us have gone through the same OR most going through the same currently. A very simple concept which the Indian families fail to understand is that daughter-in-laws are the “Face of Family” in future, who will take forward the legacy of the family forward and preach it to the next generation as per the society’s current norms.

Post marriage it’s the responsibility of new family, who need to make the newly wed bride accustom with the family’s culture & traditions; need to give her time to settle down and, then set an expectation from her. And the same is for the girl to understand and adapt the family as her own and consider it as her first priority.